Art of Flirting

Some people just do not have the ability to properly “flirt.” Some individuals are socially awkward and some are just clueless. Most people do not realize there is a science to flirting, a “formula” so to speak. If you want to learn my technique, here is my formula to flirtation…

:: CONFIDENCE ::
I cannot stress  this enough, but one of the key factors to being successful at flirting is CONFIDENCE. First you must be confident in yourself before anyone will be confident in you. Be confident in who you are and what you say. Even if you are just throwing out pick up lines, be confident in the words and the conversation you throw out. There is nothing worse than a man or woman who does not have the confidence to believe in their-selves and their abilities.

:: EYE CONTACT ::
Say you walk into a room and you catch someone’s eye. Be sure to maintain eye contact. It is essential you keep your eyes focused on that person for a solid amount of time (at least 10 seconds) before breaking your gaze away. Let your eyes wander for a little before you establish eye contact for a second time. Eye contact from across the room engages the other person and invites them to approach you. If the other person does not maintain eye contact, they are either shy or not interested.

:: SMILING ::
After you have made eye contact, send that other person a flirtatious smile. A flirtatious smile is one that is not too eager, friendly, and slightly mysterious. I usually offer the “half-smile” or the “Mona Lisa smile,” which I feel is a bit enigmatic. It is like the famous Mona Lisa smile, where Mona Lisa is smiling slightly, but you have no clue as to what she is thinking about. Her smile draws people in. It makes people wonder who she is and what is behind that smile. A smile is also a great way to invite further conversation or contact.

:: EMPHASIZING YOUR BEST FEATURES ::
A great way to draw a person in is to emphasize your best features, or your best assets. People have told me my best features are my eyes, my lips, or my smile. Because this is what I have heard, I often use these assets to “engage the opposite sex.” For instance, I will often widen my eyes to make them look larger because I want to emphasize how attractive and deep they are. Basically, you are drawing people to you without having had any conversation.

:: CONVERSATION ::
When you are conversating with the person, keep the conversation light. Ask open-ended questions that require more than just a yes or no answer. Answer questions normally as if you were talking to a friend. The point is to keep the conversation going, but in a fun, light manner. Make sure you are sincerely listening to what they are saying, and store this information in the back of your head for future use.

:: LAUGHING ::

During the conversation, laugh a little to lighten the mood. When you laugh, you release endorphins that make you happier. This warm, happy attitude is infectious, and can cause the other person to laugh with you. Establishing this light-hearted attitude scores big points with the opposite sex. It shows you are comfortable, and this in turn makes the other person more comfortable.

:: BODY POSITION ::
When the other person is speaking, lean in to show your interest. You are showing you are interested in what they have to say. You are showing you are interested in them as a person. When you flirt and there is interest, your body does things subconsciously to express this interest. For boys, we play with our hair or fidget and touch our goggles. Girls will often point their body towards the man.

Watch this videos below…it’s a short recap of what I have described above.

7 Unfailing Laws Of Successful Relationships

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Most think that relationships exist to make them happy. When they find that special person, they believe that love will naturally grow. But in relationships we encounter everything – challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. But few know how to handle the rough times.

We seldom learn about how to build relationships in a way that brings out the best in all. However, there are simple laws of successful relationships. These laws act as guideposts, helping us to choose wisely and to avoid costly mistakes. Seven of these basic laws are described below.

Law #1 – There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available.

Many live with the idea that love is scarce and that they must cling to whoever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. (If you don’t have one, look and see how and why you are keeping it away). It is never necessary to cling to the wrong person out of fear of being alone.

Law # 2 – Know Who You Are And What You’re Seeking

Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied.

But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, it is easy to become lost in a relationship, to become a pawn in someone else’s world.. A healthy relationship is always mutual, it is an acknowledgement that both partners are equally valuable.

Law #3 Don’t Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You

Some find, to their amazement, that they choose the same partner, over and over again. Relationships patterns repeat as well. This is called the repetition compulsion.

It is the unconscious need to repeat a situation over and over until we master it or it turns out the way we want it to. This compulsion keeps some people stuck in a bind. If you are caught in this, see what this pattern is doing for you. Actively choose different places to go and make a point of choosing individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.

Law #4 – Enjoy Honest Communication

Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to make another happy. Don’t give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The bedrock of all happy relationships is mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication. Ask for what is important to you.

Find out what is really going on for your partner. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.

Law #5 Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person

Let everyone be who they are, including yourself. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Changing another is not your job. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.

Law # 6- Know Difference Between Real and Counterfeit Love.

Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It’s infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy.

Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn “to”do love”. Do love and you will be loved. in return.

Law #7 – See the Best In Others – And In Yourself.

What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points (and let them know about them), you can be certain the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity. Often it can just fall away on its own.

Law #7 1/2- The Master Law – When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue

Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You’ve come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don’t see it as failure. Don’t see it as loss. Don’t try to control when time comes to go.

The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it’s time to let go, thank the person for all you’ve received from them and let go.

How To Say “I Love You” In Different Languages (Real)

This article is a compilation of all the translations of “I LOVE YOU” I could find. The goal of this list was first a personnal goal, but know I makes it open for you.

If there is more than one version of a sentence, just choose the one that suits you best. The order was just a consequence of latinish alphabetic translation. And last, I don’t understand even a single word of most of these languages, so please do not mess around with me.

Language                Translation
--------                -----------
afrikaans               Ek het jou liefe
afrikaans               Ek is lief vir jou
alsacien                Ich hoan dich gear
amharic                 Afekrishalehou
arabic                  Ana Behibak 
                        (to a male)
arabic                  Ana Behibek 
                        (to a female)
arabic                  Ib'n hebbak.
arabic                  Ana Ba-heb-bak
arabic                  nhebuk
arabic                  OHIBOKE    
                        male to female
arabic                  OHIBOKA    
                        female to male
arabic                  OHIBOKOM
arabic                  NOHIBOKE   
arabic                  NOHIBOKA   
arabic                  NOHIBOKOMA                
arabic                  NOHIBOKOM  
arabic                  NOHIBOKON  
arabic                  BAHIBAK    
                        female to male
arabic                  BAHIBIK    
                        male to female
assamese                Moi tomak bhal pau
basc                    Nere Maitea
batak                   Holong rohangku di ho
bavarian                I mog di narrisch gern
bengali                 Ami tomAy bhAlobAshi
bengali                 Ami tomake bhalobashi
berber                  Lakh tirikh
bicol                   Namumutan ta ka
bolivian Quechua        qanta munani
bulgarian               Obicham te
burmese                 chit pa de
cambodian               Bon sro lanh oon
cambodian               kh_nhaum soro_lahn 
                        nhee_ah
canadian French         Sh'teme  (spoken, 
                        sounds like this)
cantonese               Ngo oi ney
catalan                 T'estim   (mallorcan)
catalan                 T'estim molt 
catalan                 T'estime  (valencian)
catalan                 T'estimo (catalonian)
cebuano                 Gihigugma ko ikaw.
chickasaw               chiholloli   
chinese                 Wo ie ni
corsican                Ti tengu cara 
                        (to female)
corsican                Ti tengu caru 
                        (to male)
croatian                LJUBim te
czech                   miluji te
czech                   MILUJU TE! 
                        (colloquial form)
danish                  Jeg elsker dig
dutch                   Ik hou van jou
dutch                   Ik ben verliefd op je
ecuador Quechua         canda munani
esperanto               Mi amas vin
estonian                Mina armastan sind
estonian                Ma armastan sind
farsi                   Tora dust midaram
farsi                   Asheghetam
farsi (Persian)         doostat dAram
filipino                Mahal ka ta
filipino                Iniibig Kita
finnish                 Mina" rakastan sinua
flemish                 Ik zie oe geerne
french                  Je t'aime
friesian                Ik hald fan dei
gaelic                  Ta gra agam ort
galego (galicia)        querote (or) amote
german                  Ich liebe Dich
greek                   s' agapo
greek (old)             (Ego) philo su (ego is only needed for emphasis)
gujrati                 Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon.
hausa                   Ina sonki
hebrew                  Ani ohev otach       (male to female)
hebrew                  Ani ohev otcha       (male to male)
hebrew                  Ani ohevet otach     (female to female)
hebrew                  Ani ohevet otcha     (female to male)
hindi                   Mai tumse pyar karta hoo
hokkien                 Wa ai lu
hopi                    Nu' umi unangwa'ta
hungarian               Szeretlek
hungarian               Szeretlek te'ged
icelandic               Eg elska thig
indonesian              Saja kasih saudari
indonesian              Saya Cinta Kamu
indonesian              Saya cinta padamu
indonesian              Aku cinta padamu
irish                   taim i' ngra leat
italian                 ti amo (if it's a relationship/lover/spouse)
italian                 ti voglio bene (if it's a friend, or relative)
japanese                Kimi o ai shiteru
japanese                Watakushi-wa anata-wo ai shimasu
javanese                Kulo tresno
kannada                 Naanu Ninnanu Preethisuthene
kannada                 Naanu Ninnanu Mohisuthene
kiswahili               Nakupenda
klingon                 qabang
klingon                 qaparHa' (depends where in the galaxy you are)
korean                  Tangsinul sarang ha yo
korean                  Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida
korean                  No-rul sarang hae (man to woman in casual
                          relation)
korean                  Tangshin-ul sarang hae-yo
korean                  Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (i like you, in a romantic
                          way)
kurdish                 Ez te hezdikhem (?)
lao                     Koi muk jao
latin                   Te amo
latin                   Vos amo
latin (old)             (Ego) amo te (ego, for emphasis)
latvian                 Es milu tevi (Pronounced "Ess tevy meeloo")
lingala                 Nalingi yo
lisbon lingo            gramo-te bue', chavalinha
lithuanian              TAVE MYLIU (ta-ve mee-lyu)
lojban                  mi do prami
luo                     Aheri
macedonian              SAKAM TE!
madrid lingo            Me molas, tronca
malay                   Saya cintamu
malay                   Saya sayangmu
malay/Indonesian        Aku sayang enkow
malay/Indonesian        Sayah Chantikan Awah
malayalam               Njyaan Ninne' Preetikyunnu
malayalam               Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu.
mandarin                Wo ai ni
marathi                 me tujhashi prem karto (male to female)
marathi                 me tujhashi prem karte (female to male)
mohawk                  Konoronhkwa
navaho                  Ayor anosh'ni
ndebele                 Niyakutanda
norwegian               Eg elskar deg  (Nynorsk)
norwegian               Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) (pronouncedyai elske
                          dai)
osetian                 Aez dae warzyn
persian                 Tora dost daram
polish                  Kocham Cie
polish                  Ja cie kocham
portuguese              Amo-te
portuguese (brazilian)  Eu te amo
punjabi                 Mai taunu pyar karda.
romanian                Te iu besc
russian                 Ya vas liubliu
russian                 ya liubliu tebia
russian                 ya tebia liubliu
russian                 Ya polyubeel tebya.
scot Gaelic             Tha gra\dh agam ort
serbian                 LUBim te.
serbocroatian           volim te
shona                   Ndinokuda
sinhalese               Mama oyata adarei
sioux                   Techihhila
slovak                  lubim ta
slovene                 ljubim te
spanish                 Te quiero
spanish                 Te amo
srilankan               Mama Oyata Arderyi
swahili                 Naku penda (followed by the person's name)
swedish                 Jag a"lskar dig
swiss-German            Ch'ha di ga"rn
syrian/Lebanes          BHEBBEK (to a female)
syrian/Lebanes          BHEBBAK (to a male)
tagalog                 Mahal kita
tamil                   Ni yaanai kaadli karen     (You love me)
tamil                   n^An unnaik kAthalikkinREn (I love you)
tcheque                 MILUJI TE^
telugu                  Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanu
telugu/india            Nenu Ninnu Premistunnanu
thai                    Ch'an Rak Khun
thai                    Phom Rak Khun
tunisian                Ha eh bak                     *
turkish                 Seni seviyo*rum     (o* means o)
ukrainian               ja tebe koKHAju  (real true love)
ukrainian               ja vas koKHAju
ukrainian               ja pokoKHAv tebe
ukrainian               ja pokoKHAv vas
urdu                    Mujhe tumse mohabbat hai
vietnamese              Em ye^u anh   (woman to man)
vietnamese              Toi yeu em
vietnamese              Anh ye^u em   (man to woman)
vlaams                  Ik hue van ye
vulcan                  Wani ra yana ro aisha
welsh                   'Rwy'n dy garu di.
welsh                   Yr wyf i yn dy garu di (chwi)
yiddish                 Ich libe dich
yiddish                 Ich han dich lib
yugoslavian             Ya te volim
zazi                    Ezhele hezdege (sp?)
zuni                    Tom ho' ichema
zulu                    Ngiyakuthanda!

FOREIGN LANGUAGE FOR GOOD CAREER

“Those who know nothing of foreign languages, knows nothing of their own”

Business is not the only area of employment where language competencies are needed, however. Multiple government agencies, the travel industry, engineering, communications, the field of education, international law, economics, public policy, publishing, advertising, entertainment, scientific research, and a broad array of service sectors all have needs for people with foreign language skills.

If businesses are to effectively compete in a global economy, they must learn to deal with other cultures on their own terms. Companies that plan to do business abroad therefore have a dire need for bilingual(native language) or multilingual(is one who can communicate in more than one language) employees. Businesses that intend to compete internationally need employees who can competently communicate in the locales where they do business. Employees who speak one language can communicate only with people who speak that same language.
Whatever your career goals, knowing a language certainly won’t hurt your employability. Chances are that knowing languages will open up employment opportunities that you would not have had otherwise. And you will be able to command a greater salary in the workplace. All else being equal, knowing languages gives you an edge over monolingual applicants competing for the same jobs.
Because learning a language involves a variety of learning skills, studying a foreign language can enhance one’s ability to learn and function in several other areas. Children who have studied a language at the elementary level score higher on tests in reading, language arts, and math. People who have learned foreign languages show greater cognitive development in areas such as mental flexibility, creativity, and higher order thinking skills, such as problem-solving, conceptualizing, and reasoning.

In addition to cognitive benefits, the study of foreign languages leads to the acquisition of some important life skills. Because language learners learn to deal with unfamiliar cultural ideas, they are much better equipped to adapt and cope in a fast-changing world. They also learn to effectively handle new situations. In addition, the encounter with cultures different from one’s own leads to tolerance of diverse lifestyles and customs. And it improves the learner’s ability to understand and communicate with people from different walks of life.