Art of Flirting


Some people just do not have the ability to properly “flirt.” Some individuals are socially awkward and some are just clueless. Most people do not realize there is a science to flirting, a “formula” so to speak. If you want to learn my technique, here is my formula to flirtation

:: CONFIDENCE ::
I cannot stress  this enough, but one of the key factors to being successful at flirting is CONFIDENCE. First you must be confident in yourself before anyone will be confident in you. Be confident in who you are and what you say. Even if you are just throwing out pick up lines, be confident in the words and the conversation you throw out. There is nothing worse than a man or woman who does not have the confidence to believe in their-selves and their abilities.

:: EYE CONTACT ::
Say you walk into a room and you catch someone’s eye. Be sure to maintain eye contact. It is essential you keep your eyes focused on that person for a solid amount of time (at least 10 seconds) before breaking your gaze away. Let your eyes wander for a little before you establish eye contact for a second time. Eye contact from across the room engages the other person and invites them to approach you. If the other person does not maintain eye contact, they are either shy or not interested.

:: SMILING ::
After you have made eye contact, send that other person a flirtatious smile. A flirtatious smile is one that is not too eager, friendly, and slightly mysterious. I usually offer the “half-smile” or the “Mona Lisa smile,” which I feel is a bit enigmatic. It is like the famous Mona Lisa smile, where Mona Lisa is smiling slightly, but you have no clue as to what she is thinking about. Her smile draws people in. It makes people wonder who she is and what is behind that smile. A smile is also a great way to invite further conversation or contact.

:: EMPHASIZING YOUR BEST FEATURES ::
A great way to draw a person in is to emphasize your best features, or your best assets. People have told me my best features are my eyes, my lips, or my smile. Because this is what I have heard, I often use these assets to “engage the opposite sex.” For instance, I will often widen my eyes to make them look larger because I want to emphasize how attractive and deep they are. Basically, you are drawing people to you without having had any conversation.

:: CONVERSATION ::
When you are conversating with the person, keep the conversation light. Ask open-ended questions that require more than just a yes or no answer. Answer questions normally as if you were talking to a friend. The point is to keep the conversation going, but in a fun, light manner. Make sure you are sincerely listening to what they are saying, and store this information in the back of your head for future use.

:: LAUGHING ::

During the conversation, laugh a little to lighten the mood. When you laugh, you release endorphins that make you happier. This warm, happy attitude is infectious, and can cause the other person to laugh with you. Establishing this light-hearted attitude scores big points with the opposite sex. It shows you are comfortable, and this in turn makes the other person more comfortable.

:: BODY POSITION ::
When the other person is speaking, lean in to show your interest. You are showing you are interested in what they have to say. You are showing you are interested in them as a person. When you flirt and there is interest, your body does things subconsciously to express this interest. For boys, we play with our hair or fidget and touch our goggles. Girls will often point their body towards the man.

Watch this videos below…it’s a short recap of what I have described above.

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7 Unfailing Laws Of Successful Relationships


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Most think that relationships exist to make them happy. When they find that special person, they believe that love will naturally grow. But in relationships we encounter everything – challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. But few know how to handle the rough times.

We seldom learn about how to build relationships in a way that brings out the best in all. However, there are simple laws of successful relationships. These laws act as guideposts, helping us to choose wisely and to avoid costly mistakes. Seven of these basic laws are described below.

Law #1 – There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available.

Many live with the idea that love is scarce and that they must cling to whoever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. (If you don’t have one, look and see how and why you are keeping it away). It is never necessary to cling to the wrong person out of fear of being alone.

Law # 2 – Know Who You Are And What You’re Seeking

Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied.

But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, it is easy to become lost in a relationship, to become a pawn in someone else’s world.. A healthy relationship is always mutual, it is an acknowledgement that both partners are equally valuable.

Law #3 Don’t Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You

Some find, to their amazement, that they choose the same partner, over and over again. Relationships patterns repeat as well. This is called the repetition compulsion.

It is the unconscious need to repeat a situation over and over until we master it or it turns out the way we want it to. This compulsion keeps some people stuck in a bind. If you are caught in this, see what this pattern is doing for you. Actively choose different places to go and make a point of choosing individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.

Law #4 – Enjoy Honest Communication

Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to make another happy. Don’t give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The bedrock of all happy relationships is mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication. Ask for what is important to you.

Find out what is really going on for your partner. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.

Law #5 Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person

Let everyone be who they are, including yourself. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Changing another is not your job. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.

Law # 6- Know Difference Between Real and Counterfeit Love.

Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It’s infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy.

Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn “to”do love”. Do love and you will be loved. in return.

Law #7 – See the Best In Others – And In Yourself.

What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points (and let them know about them), you can be certain the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity. Often it can just fall away on its own.

Law #7 1/2- The Master Law – When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue

Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You’ve come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don’t see it as failure. Don’t see it as loss. Don’t try to control when time comes to go.

The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it’s time to let go, thank the person for all you’ve received from them and let go.

How To Say “I Love You” In Different Languages (Real)


This article is a compilation of all the translations of “I LOVE YOU” I could find. The goal of this list was first a personnal goal, but know I makes it open for you.

    If there is more than one version of a sentence, just choose the one that suits you best. The order was just a consequence of latinish alphabetic translation. And last, I don’t understand even a single word of most of these languages, so please do not mess around with me.

    Language                Translation
    --------                -----------
    afrikaans               Ek het jou liefe
    afrikaans               Ek is lief vir jou
    alsacien                Ich hoan dich gear
    amharic                 Afekrishalehou
    arabic                  Ana Behibak 
                            (to a male)
    arabic                  Ana Behibek 
                            (to a female)
    arabic                  Ib'n hebbak.
    arabic                  Ana Ba-heb-bak
    arabic                  nhebuk
    arabic                  OHIBOKE    
                            male to female
    arabic                  OHIBOKA    
                            female to male
    arabic                  OHIBOKOM
    arabic                  NOHIBOKE   
    arabic                  NOHIBOKA   
    arabic                  NOHIBOKOMA                
    arabic                  NOHIBOKOM  
    arabic                  NOHIBOKON  
    arabic                  BAHIBAK    
                            female to male
    arabic                  BAHIBIK    
                            male to female
    assamese                Moi tomak bhal pau
    basc                    Nere Maitea
    batak                   Holong rohangku di ho
    bavarian                I mog di narrisch gern
    bengali                 Ami tomAy bhAlobAshi
    bengali                 Ami tomake bhalobashi
    berber                  Lakh tirikh
    bicol                   Namumutan ta ka
    bolivian Quechua        qanta munani
    bulgarian               Obicham te
    burmese                 chit pa de
    cambodian               Bon sro lanh oon
    cambodian               kh_nhaum soro_lahn 
                            nhee_ah
    canadian French         Sh'teme  (spoken, 
                            sounds like this)
    cantonese               Ngo oi ney
    catalan                 T'estim   (mallorcan)
    catalan                 T'estim molt 
    catalan                 T'estime  (valencian)
    catalan                 T'estimo (catalonian)
    cebuano                 Gihigugma ko ikaw.
    chickasaw               chiholloli   
    chinese                 Wo ie ni
    corsican                Ti tengu cara 
                            (to female)
    corsican                Ti tengu caru 
                            (to male)
    croatian                LJUBim te
    czech                   miluji te
    czech                   MILUJU TE! 
                            (colloquial form)
    danish                  Jeg elsker dig
    dutch                   Ik hou van jou
    dutch                   Ik ben verliefd op je
    ecuador Quechua         canda munani
    esperanto               Mi amas vin
    estonian                Mina armastan sind
    estonian                Ma armastan sind
    farsi                   Tora dust midaram
    farsi                   Asheghetam
    farsi (Persian)         doostat dAram
    filipino                Mahal ka ta
    filipino                Iniibig Kita
    finnish                 Mina" rakastan sinua
    flemish                 Ik zie oe geerne
    french                  Je t'aime
    friesian                Ik hald fan dei
    gaelic                  Ta gra agam ort
    galego (galicia)        querote (or) amote
    german                  Ich liebe Dich
    greek                   s' agapo
    greek (old)             (Ego) philo su (ego is only needed for emphasis)
    gujrati                 Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon.
    hausa                   Ina sonki
    hebrew                  Ani ohev otach       (male to female)
    hebrew                  Ani ohev otcha       (male to male)
    hebrew                  Ani ohevet otach     (female to female)
    hebrew                  Ani ohevet otcha     (female to male)
    hindi                   Mai tumse pyar karta hoo
    hokkien                 Wa ai lu
    hopi                    Nu' umi unangwa'ta
    hungarian               Szeretlek
    hungarian               Szeretlek te'ged
    icelandic               Eg elska thig
    indonesian              Saja kasih saudari
    indonesian              Saya Cinta Kamu
    indonesian              Saya cinta padamu
    indonesian              Aku cinta padamu
    irish                   taim i' ngra leat
    italian                 ti amo (if it's a relationship/lover/spouse)
    italian                 ti voglio bene (if it's a friend, or relative)
    japanese                Kimi o ai shiteru
    japanese                Watakushi-wa anata-wo ai shimasu
    javanese                Kulo tresno
    kannada                 Naanu Ninnanu Preethisuthene
    kannada                 Naanu Ninnanu Mohisuthene
    kiswahili               Nakupenda
    klingon                 qabang
    klingon                 qaparHa' (depends where in the galaxy you are)
    korean                  Tangsinul sarang ha yo
    korean                  Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida
    korean                  No-rul sarang hae (man to woman in casual
                              relation)
    korean                  Tangshin-ul sarang hae-yo
    korean                  Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (i like you, in a romantic
                              way)
    kurdish                 Ez te hezdikhem (?)
    lao                     Koi muk jao
    latin                   Te amo
    latin                   Vos amo
    latin (old)             (Ego) amo te (ego, for emphasis)
    latvian                 Es milu tevi (Pronounced "Ess tevy meeloo")
    lingala                 Nalingi yo
    lisbon lingo            gramo-te bue', chavalinha
    lithuanian              TAVE MYLIU (ta-ve mee-lyu)
    lojban                  mi do prami
    luo                     Aheri
    macedonian              SAKAM TE!
    madrid lingo            Me molas, tronca
    malay                   Saya cintamu
    malay                   Saya sayangmu
    malay/Indonesian        Aku sayang enkow
    malay/Indonesian        Sayah Chantikan Awah
    malayalam               Njyaan Ninne' Preetikyunnu
    malayalam               Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu.
    mandarin                Wo ai ni
    marathi                 me tujhashi prem karto (male to female)
    marathi                 me tujhashi prem karte (female to male)
    mohawk                  Konoronhkwa
    navaho                  Ayor anosh'ni
    ndebele                 Niyakutanda
    norwegian               Eg elskar deg  (Nynorsk)
    norwegian               Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) (pronouncedyai elske
                              dai)
    osetian                 Aez dae warzyn
    persian                 Tora dost daram
    polish                  Kocham Cie
    polish                  Ja cie kocham
    portuguese              Amo-te
    portuguese (brazilian)  Eu te amo
    punjabi                 Mai taunu pyar karda.
    romanian                Te iu besc
    russian                 Ya vas liubliu
    russian                 ya liubliu tebia
    russian                 ya tebia liubliu
    russian                 Ya polyubeel tebya.
    scot Gaelic             Tha gra\dh agam ort
    serbian                 LUBim te.
    serbocroatian           volim te
    shona                   Ndinokuda
    sinhalese               Mama oyata adarei
    sioux                   Techihhila
    slovak                  lubim ta
    slovene                 ljubim te
    spanish                 Te quiero
    spanish                 Te amo
    srilankan               Mama Oyata Arderyi
    swahili                 Naku penda (followed by the person's name)
    swedish                 Jag a"lskar dig
    swiss-German            Ch'ha di ga"rn
    syrian/Lebanes          BHEBBEK (to a female)
    syrian/Lebanes          BHEBBAK (to a male)
    tagalog                 Mahal kita
    tamil                   Ni yaanai kaadli karen     (You love me)
    tamil                   n^An unnaik kAthalikkinREn (I love you)
    tcheque                 MILUJI TE^
    telugu                  Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanu
    telugu/india            Nenu Ninnu Premistunnanu
    thai                    Ch'an Rak Khun
    thai                    Phom Rak Khun
    tunisian                Ha eh bak                     *
    turkish                 Seni seviyo*rum     (o* means o)
    ukrainian               ja tebe koKHAju  (real true love)
    ukrainian               ja vas koKHAju
    ukrainian               ja pokoKHAv tebe
    ukrainian               ja pokoKHAv vas
    urdu                    Mujhe tumse mohabbat hai
    vietnamese              Em ye^u anh   (woman to man)
    vietnamese              Toi yeu em
    vietnamese              Anh ye^u em   (man to woman)
    vlaams                  Ik hue van ye
    vulcan                  Wani ra yana ro aisha
    welsh                   'Rwy'n dy garu di.
    welsh                   Yr wyf i yn dy garu di (chwi)
    yiddish                 Ich libe dich
    yiddish                 Ich han dich lib
    yugoslavian             Ya te volim
    zazi                    Ezhele hezdege (sp?)
    zuni                    Tom ho' ichema
    zulu                    Ngiyakuthanda!
    

FOREIGN LANGUAGE FOR GOOD CAREER


“Those who know nothing of foreign languages, knows nothing of their own”

Business is not the only area of employment where language competencies are needed, however. Multiple government agencies, the travel industry, engineering, communications, the field of education, international law, economics, public policy, publishing, advertising, entertainment, scientific research, and a broad array of service sectors all have needs for people with foreign language skills.

If businesses are to effectively compete in a global economy, they must learn to deal with other cultures on their own terms. Companies that plan to do business abroad therefore have a dire need for bilingual(native language) or multilingual(is one who can communicate in more than one language) employees. Businesses that intend to compete internationally need employees who can competently communicate in the locales where they do business. Employees who speak one language can communicate only with people who speak that same language.
Whatever your career goals, knowing a language certainly won’t hurt your employability. Chances are that knowing languages will open up employment opportunities that you would not have had otherwise. And you will be able to command a greater salary in the workplace. All else being equal, knowing languages gives you an edge over monolingual applicants competing for the same jobs.
Because learning a language involves a variety of learning skills, studying a foreign language can enhance one’s ability to learn and function in several other areas. Children who have studied a language at the elementary level score higher on tests in reading, language arts, and math. People who have learned foreign languages show greater cognitive development in areas such as mental flexibility, creativity, and higher order thinking skills, such as problem-solving, conceptualizing, and reasoning.

In addition to cognitive benefits, the study of foreign languages leads to the acquisition of some important life skills. Because language learners learn to deal with unfamiliar cultural ideas, they are much better equipped to adapt and cope in a fast-changing world. They also learn to effectively handle new situations. In addition, the encounter with cultures different from one’s own leads to tolerance of diverse lifestyles and customs. And it improves the learner’s ability to understand and communicate with people from different walks of life.