A Mystery behind A Solid Partnership


The best relationships that we have stem from friendship.

Developing that strong bond between yourself and another person is something that just doesn’t happen overnight. It takes spending time with that person, having frequent conversations with them on a regular basis, you know, the normal things that you do when you are trying to get to know a person. Meeting someone who you have no type of previous association with is cool, not knocking that at all. But what about meeting someone who has been in the picture for years? Someone that you have really grown to know over an extended period of time. Despite what some people may think, getting into a relationship with a close friend could very well be the key to your happiness.

Think back on some the best relationships that you have had for a moment. Were they ones where you just jumped right into a relationship with a guy that you knew for all of a few weeks? Or were they the ones where a true friendship has involved prior to? My guess would be the ones where you all were friends first.

That is one of the most positive things about meeting your friends. You have already established that real connection with each other. And because of that, you know a decent amount of their likes and dislikes, how they handle certain situations that are faced with, essentially the whole nine. The trust, commitment, communication; all of those things are already there between you two, things that all partnerships need to have. Granted, there may be some things that have been kept under wraps, but for the most part, you know everything there is to know about that person. So you can pretty much skip over that whole “getting to know your man” phase. He was your friend from jump so you already have this part in the bag.

Not to say that if you don’t have a friendship with your man before you two get in a relationship means that it will be doomed to hell from the very start. That’s a far-fetched to assume. But when you come into it already knowing a lot about the person that you are about to be with, it makes life so much easier for the both of you. You don’t have to go asking around about him and what he or she did in the past. No background checks and sending out nosey girlfriends or boyfriends to dig up information on him will be necessary. You most likely already know everything for yourself.

Though it may sound like an instant win to a lot of us, getting into a serious relationship with one of your homeboys can be a little scary to do. There’s always the thing where if it doesn’t work out, it may ruin the friendship that you had with that person. Up to this point, you have only had been in a friendship with them. They could be a certified jackass as a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Yes, this could very well happen. The love fest that you thought you two were going to have turned out to be one of the worst dating experiences that you have ever had. But if the friendship is strong enough and based on something real and positive, I doubt you will have that problem on your hands. Besides, if he/she is good enough to be your friend, then he/she is probably well worth a shot as your boyfriend/girlfriend.

With any relationship that you find yourself in, there will be ups and downs that you will face as a couple, whether it’s with a long time friend or not. But who better to go through these things with than someone who has had your back from the start; A person who genuinely has your interest at heart and is not afraid to tell you when you are getting out of line. Wouldn’t you rather take a chance with a person you have known for a minute than to take a chance with a total stranger? I know I would.

7 Unfailing Laws Of Successful Relationships


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Most think that relationships exist to make them happy. When they find that special person, they believe that love will naturally grow. But in relationships we encounter everything – challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. But few know how to handle the rough times.

We seldom learn about how to build relationships in a way that brings out the best in all. However, there are simple laws of successful relationships. These laws act as guideposts, helping us to choose wisely and to avoid costly mistakes. Seven of these basic laws are described below.

Law #1 – There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available.

Many live with the idea that love is scarce and that they must cling to whoever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. (If you don’t have one, look and see how and why you are keeping it away). It is never necessary to cling to the wrong person out of fear of being alone.

Law # 2 – Know Who You Are And What You’re Seeking

Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied.

But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, it is easy to become lost in a relationship, to become a pawn in someone else’s world.. A healthy relationship is always mutual, it is an acknowledgement that both partners are equally valuable.

Law #3 Don’t Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You

Some find, to their amazement, that they choose the same partner, over and over again. Relationships patterns repeat as well. This is called the repetition compulsion.

It is the unconscious need to repeat a situation over and over until we master it or it turns out the way we want it to. This compulsion keeps some people stuck in a bind. If you are caught in this, see what this pattern is doing for you. Actively choose different places to go and make a point of choosing individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.

Law #4 – Enjoy Honest Communication

Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to make another happy. Don’t give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The bedrock of all happy relationships is mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication. Ask for what is important to you.

Find out what is really going on for your partner. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.

Law #5 Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person

Let everyone be who they are, including yourself. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Changing another is not your job. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.

Law # 6- Know Difference Between Real and Counterfeit Love.

Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It’s infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy.

Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn “to”do love”. Do love and you will be loved. in return.

Law #7 – See the Best In Others – And In Yourself.

What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points (and let them know about them), you can be certain the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity. Often it can just fall away on its own.

Law #7 1/2- The Master Law – When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue

Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You’ve come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don’t see it as failure. Don’t see it as loss. Don’t try to control when time comes to go.

The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it’s time to let go, thank the person for all you’ve received from them and let go.