Some people just do not have the ability to properly “flirt.” Some individuals are socially awkward and some are just clueless. Most people do not realize there is a science to flirting, a “formula” so to speak. If you want to learn my technique, here is my formula to flirtation…
:: CONFIDENCE ::
I cannot stress this enough, but one of the key factors to being successful at flirting is CONFIDENCE. First you must be confident in yourself before anyone will be confident in you. Be confident in who you are and what you say. Even if you are just throwing out pick up lines, be confident in the words and the conversation you throw out. There is nothing worse than a man or woman who does not have the confidence to believe in their-selves and their abilities.
:: EYE CONTACT ::
Say you walk into a room and you catch someone’s eye. Be sure to maintain eye contact. It is essential you keep your eyes focused on that person for a solid amount of time (at least 10 seconds) before breaking your gaze away. Let your eyes wander for a little before you establish eye contact for a second time. Eye contact from across the room engages the other person and invites them to approach you. If the other person does not maintain eye contact, they are either shy or not interested.
:: SMILING ::
After you have made eye contact, send that other person a flirtatious smile. A flirtatious smile is one that is not too eager, friendly, and slightly mysterious. I usually offer the “half-smile” or the “Mona Lisa smile,” which I feel is a bit enigmatic. It is like the famous Mona Lisa smile, where Mona Lisa is smiling slightly, but you have no clue as to what she is thinking about. Her smile draws people in. It makes people wonder who she is and what is behind that smile. A smile is also a great way to invite further conversation or contact.
:: EMPHASIZING YOUR BEST FEATURES ::
A great way to draw a person in is to emphasize your best features, or your best assets. People have told me my best features are my eyes, my lips, or my smile. Because this is what I have heard, I often use these assets to “engage the opposite sex.” For instance, I will often widen my eyes to make them look larger because I want to emphasize how attractive and deep they are. Basically, you are drawing people to you without having had any conversation.
:: CONVERSATION ::
When you are conversating with the person, keep the conversation light. Ask open-ended questions that require more than just a yes or no answer. Answer questions normally as if you were talking to a friend. The point is to keep the conversation going, but in a fun, light manner. Make sure you are sincerely listening to what they are saying, and store this information in the back of your head for future use.
:: LAUGHING ::
During the conversation, laugh a little to lighten the mood. When you laugh, you release endorphins that make you happier. This warm, happy attitude is infectious, and can cause the other person to laugh with you. Establishing this light-hearted attitude scores big points with the opposite sex. It shows you are comfortable, and this in turn makes the other person more comfortable.
:: BODY POSITION ::
When the other person is speaking, lean in to show your interest. You are showing you are interested in what they have to say. You are showing you are interested in them as a person. When you flirt and there is interest, your body does things subconsciously to express this interest. For boys, we play with our hair or fidget and touch our goggles. Girls will often point their body towards the man.
Watch this videos below…it’s a short recap of what I have described above.