A Mystery behind A Solid Partnership

The best relationships that we have stem from friendship.

Developing that strong bond between yourself and another person is something that just doesn’t happen overnight. It takes spending time with that person, having frequent conversations with them on a regular basis, you know, the normal things that you do when you are trying to get to know a person. Meeting someone who you have no type of previous association with is cool, not knocking that at all. But what about meeting someone who has been in the picture for years? Someone that you have really grown to know over an extended period of time. Despite what some people may think, getting into a relationship with a close friend could very well be the key to your happiness.

Think back on some the best relationships that you have had for a moment. Were they ones where you just jumped right into a relationship with a guy that you knew for all of a few weeks? Or were they the ones where a true friendship has involved prior to? My guess would be the ones where you all were friends first.

That is one of the most positive things about meeting your friends. You have already established that real connection with each other. And because of that, you know a decent amount of their likes and dislikes, how they handle certain situations that are faced with, essentially the whole nine. The trust, commitment, communication; all of those things are already there between you two, things that all partnerships need to have. Granted, there may be some things that have been kept under wraps, but for the most part, you know everything there is to know about that person. So you can pretty much skip over that whole “getting to know your man” phase. He was your friend from jump so you already have this part in the bag.

Not to say that if you don’t have a friendship with your man before you two get in a relationship means that it will be doomed to hell from the very start. That’s a far-fetched to assume. But when you come into it already knowing a lot about the person that you are about to be with, it makes life so much easier for the both of you. You don’t have to go asking around about him and what he or she did in the past. No background checks and sending out nosey girlfriends or boyfriends to dig up information on him will be necessary. You most likely already know everything for yourself.

Though it may sound like an instant win to a lot of us, getting into a serious relationship with one of your homeboys can be a little scary to do. There’s always the thing where if it doesn’t work out, it may ruin the friendship that you had with that person. Up to this point, you have only had been in a friendship with them. They could be a certified jackass as a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Yes, this could very well happen. The love fest that you thought you two were going to have turned out to be one of the worst dating experiences that you have ever had. But if the friendship is strong enough and based on something real and positive, I doubt you will have that problem on your hands. Besides, if he/she is good enough to be your friend, then he/she is probably well worth a shot as your boyfriend/girlfriend.

With any relationship that you find yourself in, there will be ups and downs that you will face as a couple, whether it’s with a long time friend or not. But who better to go through these things with than someone who has had your back from the start; A person who genuinely has your interest at heart and is not afraid to tell you when you are getting out of line. Wouldn’t you rather take a chance with a person you have known for a minute than to take a chance with a total stranger? I know I would.


Why We Sleep….?

We spend a third of our lives asleep, but sleep researchers still don’t know why. Some researchers regard sleep as one of the greatest unsolved mysteries of science, even though all animals do it in one form or another.

“Theories range from brain ‘maintenance’–including memory consolidation and pruning–to reversing damage from oxidative stress suffered while awake, to promoting longevity,” says a statement released this week by the University of California in Los Angeles. “None of these theories are well established, and many are mutually exclusive.”

A new analysis by Jerome Siegel, UCLA professor of psychiatry and director of the Center for Sleep Research at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA and the Sepulveda Veterans Affairs Medical Center, has concluded that sleep’s primary function is to increase animals’ efficiency and minimize their risk by regulating the duration and timing of their behavior, the UCLA statement said.

“Sleep has normally been viewed as something negative for survival because sleeping animals may be vulnerable to predation and they can’t perform the behaviors that ensure survival,” Siegel said. These behaviors include eating, procreating, caring for family members, monitoring the environment for danger and scouting for prey.

“So it’s been thought that sleep must serve some as-yet unidentified physiological or neural function that can’t be accomplished when animals are awake,” he said.

But after monitoring the sleep times of a broad range of animals–from the platypus and the walrus to the echidna–the team led by Siegel concluded that sleep itself is highly adaptive, “much like the inactive states seen in a wide range of species, starting with plants and simple microorganisms.”

“These species have dormant states as opposed to sleep–even though in many cases they do not have nervous systems,” UCLA noted.

That challenges the idea that sleep is for the brain, Siegel said.

“We see sleep as lying on a continuum that ranges from these dormant states like torpor and hibernation, on to periods of continuous activity without any sleep, such as during migration, where birds can fly for days on end without stopping,” he said.

Hibernation is one example of an activity that regulates behavior for survival. A small animal can’t migrate to a warmer climate in winter, Siegel said. “So it hibernates, effectively cutting its energy consumption and thus its need for food, remaining secure from predators by burrowing underground.”

Sleep duration, then, is determined in each species by the time requirements of eating, the cost-benefit relations between activity and risk, migration needs, care of young, and other factors, the research team said.

“However, unlike hibernation and torpor,” Siegel said, “sleep is rapidly reversible–that is, animals can wake up quickly, a unique mammalian adaptation that allows for a relatively quick response to sensory signals.”

Humans fit into this analysis as well.

What is most remarkable about sleep, according to Siegel, is not the unresponsiveness or vulnerability it creates but rather the ability to reduce body and brain metabolism while still allowing a high level of responsiveness to the environment.

“The often cited example is that of a parent arousing at a baby’s whimper but sleeping through a thunderstorm. That dramatizes the ability of the sleeping human brain to continuously process sensory signals and trigger complete awakening to significant stimuli within a few hundred milliseconds.”

In humans, the brain constitutes, on average, just 2 percent of total body weight but consumes 20 percent of the energy used during quiet waking, so these savings have considerable adaptive significance, UCLA said.

“Besides conserving energy, sleep also invokes survival benefits for humans.”

Besides conserving energy, sleep also invokes survival benefits for humans, including, according to Siegel, “a reduced risk of injury, reduced resource consumption and, from an evolutionary standpoint, reduced risk of detection by predators.”

“This Darwinian perspective can explain age-related changes in human sleep patterns as well,” he said.

“We sleep more deeply when we are young, because we have a high metabolic rate that is greatly reduced during sleep, but also because there are people to protect us.

“Our sleep patterns change when we are older, though, because that metabolic rate reduces and we are now the ones doing the alerting and protecting from dangers.”

7 Unfailing Laws Of Successful Relationships

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Most think that relationships exist to make them happy. When they find that special person, they believe that love will naturally grow. But in relationships we encounter everything – challenges, joy, fulfillment, loss. But few know how to handle the rough times.

We seldom learn about how to build relationships in a way that brings out the best in all. However, there are simple laws of successful relationships. These laws act as guideposts, helping us to choose wisely and to avoid costly mistakes. Seven of these basic laws are described below.

Law #1 – There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available.

Many live with the idea that love is scarce and that they must cling to whoever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. (If you don’t have one, look and see how and why you are keeping it away). It is never necessary to cling to the wrong person out of fear of being alone.

Law # 2 – Know Who You Are And What You’re Seeking

Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied.

But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. Otherwise, it is easy to become lost in a relationship, to become a pawn in someone else’s world.. A healthy relationship is always mutual, it is an acknowledgement that both partners are equally valuable.

Law #3 Don’t Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You

Some find, to their amazement, that they choose the same partner, over and over again. Relationships patterns repeat as well. This is called the repetition compulsion.

It is the unconscious need to repeat a situation over and over until we master it or it turns out the way we want it to. This compulsion keeps some people stuck in a bind. If you are caught in this, see what this pattern is doing for you. Actively choose different places to go and make a point of choosing individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.

Law #4 – Enjoy Honest Communication

Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to make another happy. Don’t give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The bedrock of all happy relationships is mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication. Ask for what is important to you.

Find out what is really going on for your partner. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.

Law #5 Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person

Let everyone be who they are, including yourself. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Changing another is not your job. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.

Law # 6- Know Difference Between Real and Counterfeit Love.

Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It’s infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over, it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy.

Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn “to”do love”. Do love and you will be loved. in return.

Law #7 – See the Best In Others – And In Yourself.

What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points (and let them know about them), you can be certain the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity. Often it can just fall away on its own.

Law #7 1/2- The Master Law – When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue

Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You’ve come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don’t see it as failure. Don’t see it as loss. Don’t try to control when time comes to go.

The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it’s time to let go, thank the person for all you’ve received from them and let go.

How To Say “I Love You” In Different Languages (Real)

This article is a compilation of all the translations of “I LOVE YOU” I could find. The goal of this list was first a personnal goal, but know I makes it open for you.

    If there is more than one version of a sentence, just choose the one that suits you best. The order was just a consequence of latinish alphabetic translation. And last, I don’t understand even a single word of most of these languages, so please do not mess around with me.

    Language                Translation
    --------                -----------
    afrikaans               Ek het jou liefe
    afrikaans               Ek is lief vir jou
    alsacien                Ich hoan dich gear
    amharic                 Afekrishalehou
    arabic                  Ana Behibak 
                            (to a male)
    arabic                  Ana Behibek 
                            (to a female)
    arabic                  Ib'n hebbak.
    arabic                  Ana Ba-heb-bak
    arabic                  nhebuk
    arabic                  OHIBOKE    
                            male to female
    arabic                  OHIBOKA    
                            female to male
    arabic                  OHIBOKOM
    arabic                  NOHIBOKE   
    arabic                  NOHIBOKA   
    arabic                  NOHIBOKOMA                
    arabic                  NOHIBOKOM  
    arabic                  NOHIBOKON  
    arabic                  BAHIBAK    
                            female to male
    arabic                  BAHIBIK    
                            male to female
    assamese                Moi tomak bhal pau
    basc                    Nere Maitea
    batak                   Holong rohangku di ho
    bavarian                I mog di narrisch gern
    bengali                 Ami tomAy bhAlobAshi
    bengali                 Ami tomake bhalobashi
    berber                  Lakh tirikh
    bicol                   Namumutan ta ka
    bolivian Quechua        qanta munani
    bulgarian               Obicham te
    burmese                 chit pa de
    cambodian               Bon sro lanh oon
    cambodian               kh_nhaum soro_lahn 
    canadian French         Sh'teme  (spoken, 
                            sounds like this)
    cantonese               Ngo oi ney
    catalan                 T'estim   (mallorcan)
    catalan                 T'estim molt 
    catalan                 T'estime  (valencian)
    catalan                 T'estimo (catalonian)
    cebuano                 Gihigugma ko ikaw.
    chickasaw               chiholloli   
    chinese                 Wo ie ni
    corsican                Ti tengu cara 
                            (to female)
    corsican                Ti tengu caru 
                            (to male)
    croatian                LJUBim te
    czech                   miluji te
    czech                   MILUJU TE! 
                            (colloquial form)
    danish                  Jeg elsker dig
    dutch                   Ik hou van jou
    dutch                   Ik ben verliefd op je
    ecuador Quechua         canda munani
    esperanto               Mi amas vin
    estonian                Mina armastan sind
    estonian                Ma armastan sind
    farsi                   Tora dust midaram
    farsi                   Asheghetam
    farsi (Persian)         doostat dAram
    filipino                Mahal ka ta
    filipino                Iniibig Kita
    finnish                 Mina" rakastan sinua
    flemish                 Ik zie oe geerne
    french                  Je t'aime
    friesian                Ik hald fan dei
    gaelic                  Ta gra agam ort
    galego (galicia)        querote (or) amote
    german                  Ich liebe Dich
    greek                   s' agapo
    greek (old)             (Ego) philo su (ego is only needed for emphasis)
    gujrati                 Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon.
    hausa                   Ina sonki
    hebrew                  Ani ohev otach       (male to female)
    hebrew                  Ani ohev otcha       (male to male)
    hebrew                  Ani ohevet otach     (female to female)
    hebrew                  Ani ohevet otcha     (female to male)
    hindi                   Mai tumse pyar karta hoo
    hokkien                 Wa ai lu
    hopi                    Nu' umi unangwa'ta
    hungarian               Szeretlek
    hungarian               Szeretlek te'ged
    icelandic               Eg elska thig
    indonesian              Saja kasih saudari
    indonesian              Saya Cinta Kamu
    indonesian              Saya cinta padamu
    indonesian              Aku cinta padamu
    irish                   taim i' ngra leat
    italian                 ti amo (if it's a relationship/lover/spouse)
    italian                 ti voglio bene (if it's a friend, or relative)
    japanese                Kimi o ai shiteru
    japanese                Watakushi-wa anata-wo ai shimasu
    javanese                Kulo tresno
    kannada                 Naanu Ninnanu Preethisuthene
    kannada                 Naanu Ninnanu Mohisuthene
    kiswahili               Nakupenda
    klingon                 qabang
    klingon                 qaparHa' (depends where in the galaxy you are)
    korean                  Tangsinul sarang ha yo
    korean                  Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida
    korean                  No-rul sarang hae (man to woman in casual
    korean                  Tangshin-ul sarang hae-yo
    korean                  Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (i like you, in a romantic
    kurdish                 Ez te hezdikhem (?)
    lao                     Koi muk jao
    latin                   Te amo
    latin                   Vos amo
    latin (old)             (Ego) amo te (ego, for emphasis)
    latvian                 Es milu tevi (Pronounced "Ess tevy meeloo")
    lingala                 Nalingi yo
    lisbon lingo            gramo-te bue', chavalinha
    lithuanian              TAVE MYLIU (ta-ve mee-lyu)
    lojban                  mi do prami
    luo                     Aheri
    macedonian              SAKAM TE!
    madrid lingo            Me molas, tronca
    malay                   Saya cintamu
    malay                   Saya sayangmu
    malay/Indonesian        Aku sayang enkow
    malay/Indonesian        Sayah Chantikan Awah
    malayalam               Njyaan Ninne' Preetikyunnu
    malayalam               Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu.
    mandarin                Wo ai ni
    marathi                 me tujhashi prem karto (male to female)
    marathi                 me tujhashi prem karte (female to male)
    mohawk                  Konoronhkwa
    navaho                  Ayor anosh'ni
    ndebele                 Niyakutanda
    norwegian               Eg elskar deg  (Nynorsk)
    norwegian               Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) (pronouncedyai elske
    osetian                 Aez dae warzyn
    persian                 Tora dost daram
    polish                  Kocham Cie
    polish                  Ja cie kocham
    portuguese              Amo-te
    portuguese (brazilian)  Eu te amo
    punjabi                 Mai taunu pyar karda.
    romanian                Te iu besc
    russian                 Ya vas liubliu
    russian                 ya liubliu tebia
    russian                 ya tebia liubliu
    russian                 Ya polyubeel tebya.
    scot Gaelic             Tha gra\dh agam ort
    serbian                 LUBim te.
    serbocroatian           volim te
    shona                   Ndinokuda
    sinhalese               Mama oyata adarei
    sioux                   Techihhila
    slovak                  lubim ta
    slovene                 ljubim te
    spanish                 Te quiero
    spanish                 Te amo
    srilankan               Mama Oyata Arderyi
    swahili                 Naku penda (followed by the person's name)
    swedish                 Jag a"lskar dig
    swiss-German            Ch'ha di ga"rn
    syrian/Lebanes          BHEBBEK (to a female)
    syrian/Lebanes          BHEBBAK (to a male)
    tagalog                 Mahal kita
    tamil                   Ni yaanai kaadli karen     (You love me)
    tamil                   n^An unnaik kAthalikkinREn (I love you)
    tcheque                 MILUJI TE^
    telugu                  Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanu
    telugu/india            Nenu Ninnu Premistunnanu
    thai                    Ch'an Rak Khun
    thai                    Phom Rak Khun
    tunisian                Ha eh bak                     *
    turkish                 Seni seviyo*rum     (o* means o)
    ukrainian               ja tebe koKHAju  (real true love)
    ukrainian               ja vas koKHAju
    ukrainian               ja pokoKHAv tebe
    ukrainian               ja pokoKHAv vas
    urdu                    Mujhe tumse mohabbat hai
    vietnamese              Em ye^u anh   (woman to man)
    vietnamese              Toi yeu em
    vietnamese              Anh ye^u em   (man to woman)
    vlaams                  Ik hue van ye
    vulcan                  Wani ra yana ro aisha
    welsh                   'Rwy'n dy garu di.
    welsh                   Yr wyf i yn dy garu di (chwi)
    yiddish                 Ich libe dich
    yiddish                 Ich han dich lib
    yugoslavian             Ya te volim
    zazi                    Ezhele hezdege (sp?)
    zuni                    Tom ho' ichema
    zulu                    Ngiyakuthanda!


“Those who know nothing of foreign languages, knows nothing of their own”

Business is not the only area of employment where language competencies are needed, however. Multiple government agencies, the travel industry, engineering, communications, the field of education, international law, economics, public policy, publishing, advertising, entertainment, scientific research, and a broad array of service sectors all have needs for people with foreign language skills.

If businesses are to effectively compete in a global economy, they must learn to deal with other cultures on their own terms. Companies that plan to do business abroad therefore have a dire need for bilingual(native language) or multilingual(is one who can communicate in more than one language) employees. Businesses that intend to compete internationally need employees who can competently communicate in the locales where they do business. Employees who speak one language can communicate only with people who speak that same language.
Whatever your career goals, knowing a language certainly won’t hurt your employability. Chances are that knowing languages will open up employment opportunities that you would not have had otherwise. And you will be able to command a greater salary in the workplace. All else being equal, knowing languages gives you an edge over monolingual applicants competing for the same jobs.
Because learning a language involves a variety of learning skills, studying a foreign language can enhance one’s ability to learn and function in several other areas. Children who have studied a language at the elementary level score higher on tests in reading, language arts, and math. People who have learned foreign languages show greater cognitive development in areas such as mental flexibility, creativity, and higher order thinking skills, such as problem-solving, conceptualizing, and reasoning.

In addition to cognitive benefits, the study of foreign languages leads to the acquisition of some important life skills. Because language learners learn to deal with unfamiliar cultural ideas, they are much better equipped to adapt and cope in a fast-changing world. They also learn to effectively handle new situations. In addition, the encounter with cultures different from one’s own leads to tolerance of diverse lifestyles and customs. And it improves the learner’s ability to understand and communicate with people from different walks of life.